I have so been neglecting this blog but I do have a good reason. I lost my job right before Thanksgiving, not exactly and ideal situation to be in right before the holidays and my motivation was totally in the dumps. I did the whole feeling bad for myself bit for several weeks, drank a little more then I should, cut off friends and family. After going through the motions for most of November and a lot of December I realized I expected better of myself.
This wasn’t living, this wasn’t the way that I do things and when one ride ends you just get in line for another.
So, I started a business, I got my first client last week and have a meeting with a second this week. The thing is, being self-employeed has always been the dream and working for others doesn’t honor my vision. If there is anything that life has taught me it is that it will correct itself, often in very painful ways, if you aren’t living the way you were intended to.
As we start this year I encourage you to take inventory and consider if you are being true to the life you want to live and the person you want to be. What needs to happen in order for you to stop going around in circles and start moving things forward? While it is great to be alive it is better when you start living.
The Thinking Man sculpture at Musée Rodin in Paris (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I work with very intelligent people, I mean seriously, some of these people make me feel lazy and intellectually dull. Yet, they struggle with things like getting to the gym on a regular basis or staying within some basic limits for food and alcohol. The thing is, intelligence does little to inoculate you against a frame of mind that tends to hinder instead of help your self-care efforts.
In this second piece on sabotaging thoughts we will look at how you can identify those instances where your way of thinking gets in the way of performing. This isn’t just procrastination, this is the reason that procrastination even exist. Think about the last time you put off doing something that you new was somewhat important but there was a distraction, like YouTube videos of cats playing pianos, that got in the way. There was a thought process that started before you even left the office, grew as you passed the gym and peaked when you decided to hit the drive through instead of the weight-room. Consider, was your day stressful, was there an unfinished bit of work that was bouncing around in your head, did you lose an argument about the increasing talent of household cats?
Even if you are not aware of it thoughts precede actions. The first step in dealing with sabotaging thoughts is to get use to some of the triggers that cause that cascade of electrical impulses to short circuit your plans. Note how stress impacts your day and look at ways to get in the things that you want to do no matter once. A while back I had a client that would drop his bag off at the gym first thing in the morning with the house keys just so he had to go there to get them. What is setting off the sabotaging thoughts in your life?